Today, I wanted to share a somewhat personal story about my husband and I. I hope nobody minds. It made me really appreciate my husband and all that he does to make our marriage work.
We were at church, walking from sacrament meeting to Sunday school. We were discussing our plans for next weekend. Because we haven't visited Ben's family for a long time and because it's General Conference weekend, we were planning tentatively on going to Vernal Saturday afternoon.
I started thinking about our plan in more definite terms and started worrying about a few logistics/snags in our plans. Mostly I realized that I wouldn't be able to spend the night of the priesthood conference with my mom. That has been a tradition in past years and I love that times spent with my mom.
I brought this up to Ben, but I don't think he understood why I was saying it. I think he really misses his family and he said something along the lines of, "Well, you will get to see her tonight and you spent yesterday with her."
Needless to say, that wasn't what I wanted him to say. I am an emotional person and was a little hurt by it. I simply answered with something like, "Yeah, I know," and walked into the classroom really quickly. Once inside, we both let the subject drop.
I knew that Ben didn't mean to upset me when he said it. He was simply expressing what we both knew, which was that we hadn't seen his family in a while and this weekend would be a good time to go. He didn't know about my mom and my tradition of spending one on one girl time together every six months and he didn't understand how much I have been missing my mom recently.
Ben is such a good husband though. Even though he might not have understood why I was so emotional about it and even though it wasn't even really his fault, he knew that what he had said had hurt me. When we sat down for our combined meeting after Sunday school, he kissed my cheek and whispered to me, "Charly, I'm sorry about what I said earlier. I shouldn't have said it."
It made me feel so wonderful that he cared about me enough to do that. I know that he didn't need to apologize. By doing so, however, he showed me not only how much he loved me, but also how much he cared about what was important to me. We were able to talk about it later when my emotions on the subject weren't as close to the surface and everything turned out fine.
Ben and I have only been married five months. So far, it's been wonderful. I know that the high quality of our marriage is in big part due to the way Benjamin treats me. I am so blessed to have such a thoughtful, loving, Christlike husband.
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